In her Friday links, The Glamorous Housewife mentioned the friendship between fashion designer Alexander McQueen and his muse, Isabella Blow. I was again reminded of my fascination with the eccentric woman who once graced the society pages of Vogue and Vanity Fair. Isabella Blow was something of a fashion genius herself, and is credited with discovering both McQueen and Philip Treacy, the famous hat designer.
I remember reading of her fascinating life and tragic death, by suicide in 2007. Blow suffered from depression for years and tried many times to end her own life, even as her friends and family struggled to help her. And McQueen, too, would eventually take his own life in 2010. It does seem that the most creative geniuses are often also plagued with irreversible depression, and the designer and his muse were no exceptions. (Kate Middleton chose McQueen’s creative director, Sarah Burton, to design her wedding dress in 2011.)
Blow created an entire world of her own eccentricities, ruled by fashion, of course. She threw lavish parties at her estate, expecting her guests to dress in the same over-the-top manner she did every day. Blow worked for Anna Wintour at Vogue, and even did a stint in Texas while working for designer Guy Laroche. I wish I knew more about that period of her life.
I’ve added two Blow biographies to my list of summer reading, and I’m hoping to learn more about her soon. I was able to find the text of the Vanity Fair article I remember reading, and this piece is a great introduction to the life of Isabella Blow, as well.
This week, Shayla and I discuss how to deal with family and friends when writing our blogs.
Today’s question is: What Do Your Family and Friends Think of Your Blog? Do You Include Them In It? How Do You Protect Their Privacy/Wishes?
Since this question has three parts, I’ll try to answer each one in turn.
First, I think (I hope?) my family and friends like and read my blog. I get pretty positive comments from them, and my mom and my sister are two of my biggest supporters. Since my blog is still newish, I’m learning to promote it more, and I still have a hard time telling people in real life that I write a blog. It just feels weird. And then, I have some friends who will say things like, “Oh yeah, I saw it on your blog,” and that still freaks me out, too.
This is embarrassing to admit, but after I attended Alt Summit, I visited with a few former co-workers (who are quite a bit older and don’t spend much time online) over coffee. I mentioned my recent trip to Salt Lake City for a “conference,” as I called it, and when one of the friends assumed it was for Ryan’s job, I didn’t correct her. That’s awful, and I still cringe thinking about it. As Sandra says, “Don’t sell yourself short.” I’m trying not to.
I also have friends who will ask, “How’s your blog?” That tells me right away they aren’t reading it, which is totally fine, so I just say it’s fine, thanks. And sometimes, I’ll write all about an event on my blog, then someone will ask me about it in real life, and my first thought will be, “I wrote about it on my blog!” It’s as if I don’t want to talk about it after getting it down on “paper.” The whole thing is just bizarre, and I’m still learning to walk the line between online and off.
To answer the second question, I do include my family and friends in my blog, a bit. You know Ryan, James, and Rhys, because they are the main people in my life, and in the above sentences, I generically mentioned my mom, sister, and a slew of different friends. When I write about my extended family and friends, I try to get their permission first, especially when posting pictures. I’ll also link to their blogs, Facebook pages, or Pinterest accounts, if possible. But mostly, I try to mention them casually and not by name, so they could be anybody anywhere.
That leads to the third question, about protecting the privacy of my friends and family. I have had a couple of people ask me not to mention their names or show their pictures, so I absolutely have to respect their wishes. Even though I blog, I’m pretty private myself, and I completely understand. Everyone is different, and I never want to make someone else uncomfortable by featuring them on my blog. I do write often about my children, but this is something I’ll probably reconsider as they get older. I don’t want to embarrass my boys, and they are so young right now that I mostly just share their cuteness with you. As they get older, I’ll have to re-evaluate and ask them what they prefer.
I think this aspect of blogging can be particularly tricky, since it’s easy to view yourself through an online persona, which doesn’t always carry over into the real world. I try to be as transparent as possible, and I always want to respect the wishes of my family and friends completely.
Be sure to read Shayla’s response to this question, too. I’m curious to see how she answers it, especially considering that she is a reporter in her small town, so she is much more visible than I am. And, as always, feel free to share your thoughts on the topic, too!
This week, we visited with friends and enjoyed the final days before school is out for summer. I can’t believe another year has come and gone, and Tuesday marks the boys’ last day! We’re planning to visit with family and enjoy the three day weekend, after tonight’s brew session, of course. Here are a few things that caught my attention this week.
I enjoy this blog on Kate Middleton’s style, and this article about the necessity of maternity clothes interested me. I couldn’t have gone without them.
And speaking of royalty, Helen Mirren took it upon herself to grant a dying boy’s wish when the Queen could not.
This article on clothing factories in Bangladesh was re-tweeted this week.
I’ll never climb a mountain, but I truly admire people who do, and this man, at the age of 80, is no exception.
An interesting post about the misconceptions parents hold about non-parents.
“Call the Midwife” has been renewed for a third season, and I am thrilled. The second season ended last week and left me in a puddle of tears. I’m currently making my way through the first of Jennifer Worth’s memoirs (the basis for the show), and hope to share them with you soon.
Have a wonderful weekend!